specs for you...it can handle 8gb
Dell Latitude E6500 Specs - CNET
quick google search on your OS and ram issues...well let's just say all sorts of stuff it could be. Generally they involve checking certain things in the bios (I would make sure the 2nd slot is enabled first)...and then some programming types of things. Unless you are a Linux guy, you picked a hard OS to deal with (well for most people)...if you are a Linux guy, then see if a google search will trigger some ideas....personally, no Linux for me unless a server and even THEN I do NOT want to do SSH commands to do stuff...desktops and laptops...Windows is just fine by me and much easier to support.
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