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    personal issues, just want to share

    Before any of you read this and to try not to leave too much out it will be pretty long , this is mainly about parenting, also before the story below I had never been in trouble for anything other than some speeding tickets in my teens and twentys. even though I look the part of a thug or a punk just because of my size I am very humble and have never hit anyone in violence

    1st a little background, (what was here was pretty good but I decided to take it out). the local police department has a video of the ex wife jumping a curb at 80 mph. her parents are the kind of people that sit around the kitchen table *****ing about other people instead of fixing their own problems. they have beat down countless ex boyfriends and husbands of their three daughters, all have been divorced at least once. I know the last guy my ex was married to was a good guy. my ex never has been able to keep a job, she even got fired from one her mom was the office manager of and her boss went over her head. also, her dad is pretty much worthless, never been able to keep a job either and finally lucked out on some disability, I knew a few of the guys he worked with before and the common term was useless. my ex and my kids live in this household

    This is a personal issue of mine that started back on 2-2-13. I know the older guys on here know about me and my girls. they are both super good kids and really smart especially considering the environment they are in. they don't have any rules, my oldest missed the bus one day and no one even took her to school. my ex has contacted me numerous times saying she couldn't handle her attitude. now to the point, my oldest was running her mouth just like her youngest aunt (snotty is a nice way to explain her) and we was in a argument. I started by sending her to the corner ( I know my 14 year old in a corner) and she said its not like it will matter anyway, I grab her by the arm and push her on the couch, not hard just to the couch,she was still yelling and screaming I pulled her up and spanked her on the butt, she pulled away and , fell, I tell her to get ready and she is going with me to the scrap yard, yelling and screaming still I spanked her twice more on the way to the truck. my 12 year old stayed at home as she wasn't in any trouble. by time we got to the scrap yard we were talking and talking good, I tell her I care about her and only punish her because I want respect and when she grows up she can't act like that, I tell her I don't want her to see her to grow up like me and struggling to get by or end up like her mom(and I left it at that) we were talking good and it was over, on our way to having a good weekend. we get in the truck from getting paid and my exs other ex husband calls me and says whats going on, I said what do you mean and he said my ex said I hit my oldest, I said good grief, about that time 3 police cars pull to the exit of the scrap yard and pull up to one and asked if he was looking for me and he said yes. my youngest had texted her mom about the spanking. while the police were talking to me a JACK@$$ flew up in a truck and the cop said whats this idiot doing and the JACK@$$ jumped outa the truck and said arrest that son of a b!tch, if you've not figured it out yet my ex father in law. soon they are all there telling the police what an ass I am and I beat the kids all the time, ridiculous. remember they lie constantly feeling better about their selves. shorten it up a little I ended up in jail and the last thing I saw in the parking lot was the JACK@$$ shaking the cops hand and smiling.

    now jail, im sure some of you have been, some of you have not, I can no longer tell you ive never been. yes sirs and no sirs go along ways and its easy for me as ill say yes sir and mam to everyone in general conversation. the food sucks for the most part but the koolaid is pretty good. I seen guys make potato skin cigarettes, make burittos outa fritos, ramen noodles and spray cheese. I got a head ache the first night and realized it was because I hadn't had caffeine since that morning , the next morning it was gone. my bunk had a good view of the tv and I watched war of the worlds the first night. I try to take something from everything and I did the same with jail, it wasn't bad but that doesn't mean I want to go back. I played several games of chess which I hadn't done since high school, I had one guy beat me on Monday morning other than that I won the rest. one guy came up to me and said your a Christian aren't you and I told him I was raised that way but havnt been to church in years. my name was big guy while I was in there, (when walking by I heard that's one big MF several times) I weigh 260 and when in high school 20+ years ago I was bench pressing 350 and aside from my gut ive acquired im still solid. I never told anyone why I was there but they seemed to think I didn't belong even though I fit in really well while I was there. I ended up staying for 2 nights and steve and dustin scrapped out two cars to make my bail as I had all the money in my wallet and it was locked up at the jail. at this point even though they will never read this I want to thank john henry for picking up my truck for me, joe banks the bondsman which we buy cars from, we didn't use his money but he sped up the process of me getting out, and the police officer who arrested me, he let me make the phone calls I needed to before I went to jail.

    when I get out I get served a restraining order from family court against my daughters and my ex wife(I wish that part could stick) in addition to a restraining order for my oldest on criminal charges.

    criminal court. when I met my lawyer after I got out of jail I told him the truth start to finish and didn't leave anything out. he didn't seem concerned too much as im sure he has seen it all. I cant prove the following but I know its true, the ex inlaws had a couple months to drill my kids, when my youngest testified her story wasn't even close to the truth making it sound awful, but my lawyer picked it apart, my oldest for the most part told the truth, I felt bad for both of them as they were crying but I do know it had to be done. after we all testified the judge called me up and said he was going to postpone his judgement until after family court, but he lifted his restraining order but informed me the family court order was still in place, I was like whats going on to my lawyer and he was smiling, he said that's the same as a not guilty he just can't say it until after the family court, he said we had a win. the ex in laws were p!ssed and stormed out of the courtroom.



    family court was yesterday, I get there early, dustin said he seen my ex outside talking to a lady and the lady said what do you want for me to do and that was all he heard and kept walking. that lady was her lawyer, they tried to get a continuance on theirs and my lawyer said theres no way, he hasn't seen his kids in weeks he wants this to be over with, they knew they didn't have a case against me and was just trying to keep me from my kids for a longer time. they ended up going up front to the judge and having to drop the case which was good and bad for me, as we had saved the best stuff for family court which will remain secret in case I need it in the future.

    I was able to drive by my girls house afterthis which I did and I seen the JACK@$$ out of the corner of my eye and I could hear him yelling at me and I just smiled

    tomorrow im going to the dreaded house for the first time in a couple months to get my kids, I cant wait to see them and to tell them I love them and im not mad at them for anything, also this coming weekend is mine also you cant imagine how happy I was when I counted up the weeks and it was mine. just wanted to share im sure a few of you have had similar stories in your past thanks for listening cory couch
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    Wow. Sorry you had to go through all of that. It could have ended way worse. Give those girls a big hug and never let go.
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    Hey Cory thanks for letting us know what's been going on. It's tough raising kids in this day and age of with half the idiots that did a piss poor job raising theirs or others that don't even have kids telling you how to do it. I'm glad the case is working out in your favor and as your kids get older I think they won't have any trouble deciding whose footsteps are best to follow.

    We have 3 grown kids (legal age anyway), our daughter is the youngest and can be very hard headed. It's tough talking sense to her sometimes but I know that her stubbornness will come in handy when I'm not around to protect her.
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    Just hang in there, Cory. They'll figure it out as they get older. (Speaking from experience)
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    A lot of us are reluctant to spill our guts out like that but I would like to thank you for sharing your personal life issues. My mother would always say "always, always tell the truth and everything works out." Again thanks for sharing brought back a memory of my own.

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    Thanks for sharing Cory. I hope it gets better for you, make sure your girls know that they always come first in your life.

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    thanks every one so far, a few minutes ago I got a call from the ex, she said she would bring the kids down to my moms, she didn't want me and the ex inlaw close together which is fine by me. I got to talk to my youngest and it went pretty well and this big ole boy cried a happy cry, my oldest didn't want to talk and I knew it would take more time for her. tomorrow will be tough but im hoping this weekend goes smoothly by the end

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    Hang in there and keep us up to date on how things are going. We care more than you might realize. I appreciate that you wanted to share this with all of us. Just keep doing the right thing and eventually the kids will figure out who is the better man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by numbers View Post
    Hang in there and keep us up to date on how things are going. We care more than you might realize. I appreciate that you wanted to share this with all of us. Just keep doing the right thing and eventually the kids will figure out who is the better man.
    thanks numbers, I know for the most part we are a little family, some of the guys bicker back and forth sometimes but when it comes down to it we care about the other guys, I was thinking about hoss a little bit when I was typing this post when he was having his troubles.

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    You're a great guy Cory, and I know that personally, but 14 is a bit old to be spanking. Even if you got shake her shoulders to get her attention, it's time to start talking, heart to heart, and I have no doubt you're capable of that as well. Kids today are tough, they've got to be, they go to school with other kids who carry guns and sell drugs and have a string of lil addicts following them around who'll do anything for them to get a buzz. You could whoop em all, but heart to heart is where you want to be with your girls, and spankings won't get you there. Today they need heart to heart as never before, not only do they deal with other kids guns and drugs, but with other kids ADDs and OCDs, things we didn't even know back when we were on the streets. Kids today got it tough, and it's good to have a tough Dad who cares enough to watch out for them like you do, but you gotta give em more, and heart to hearts are where they'll find that coming from, heart to hearts they'll have when you're not around, which will help them make the calls they need to make even when their "coach" isn't there, calls that will help them walk away rather than try that drug, or take that dare, or get in that car. Calls that will let them hold they're head up when they walk away, rather than having their head down when they come home defeated. It isn't easy being a parent or a child these days, and it isn't getting any easier. Might wanna do some reading, I know one good is Bradshaw on: The Family, there's likely many more newer ones, but I'm sure that one's good. Especially with all the disorders these kids face, they need lots of knowledge and understanding, you'll need it too, to really get and stay heart to heart. You definitely have my confidence Cory, I know you can do it, and we both know they need you to

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    actually spanking is about the only physical contact you can do these days, shaking by the shoulders would be classified as an assault, mine was classified as a battery, we have had several heart to hearts, this day was a little worse than others, usually by the time they have been with me for a few hours they settle down.

    on a side note unrelated but somewhat related, when I was a senior in high school I had all my credits to graduate except for English but I still had 6 other classes to goto. I remember failing a history test, my teacher called my mom and asked what he should do, this is no lie the next day the teacher took me to the principles office and I got a paddeling from my teacher at my moms request, not that it hurt but it was embarrassing as heck having to go back to class and the kids wondering what I had done, and you know what I didn't fail anymore tests

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    Cory; thank you for sharing your story. There is one part of your story that jumped out at me and I would like to make one comment on it and after this I will not say anything else about it. You said that you were raised up in church. I don't know why you left the church but that's were you need to be. It's the only thing that can change things for the better. If you want to talk more about this you can allways PM me. My prayers are with you and your girls.

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    Read what I've typed here four times... then count to 12, and re read it 4 times more. Pull what you typed off here. YOU WILL get in trouble with the in laws again. There are people who can build a murder case out of what you type on here. Quit driving by. Even if you are "legal". You have 6 more years of child rearing to do. Something will happen again. You can see by the attitude in you're typing that you still believe in "what's right". Yes ma'am and no ma'am only go so far. Nose down, fingers bleeding for the next couple of years will get you farther ahead than "standing up for what is right". As far as grabbing the kid, to "make a point", it never works. Your kid(s) are way smarter than you will ever know. My dad thought he could out think me. God, did I mess with him. More than one time he tried to follow me, and I ended up following him for blocks.

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    Cory, thanks so much for sharing your story. I know it has to be tough with the in-laws causing so much trouble. You sound like you really care about your daughters and I bet they know it. I believe happyscrapper is right and you could benefit from going to a good church. One way is the knowledge of the peace God can give you through your troubles with the in-laws and dealing with difficult issues with your girls. Another way is while doing something with your girls that you all can enjoy, they could see people interacting with each other who genuinely care about each other. They could also get involved with a youth group that could do them worlds of good.

    I'm not saying there's anything wrong with them now, just that it does a lot of good to be able to hang out with good kids who will be on their side. My two boys 16 and 18 are already good kids, but I feel so much better since they are in a youth group at church. They always have someone to confide in, who has their back and who will hold them accountable if they get out of line.

    I can tell from your posts on here and your work ethic that you're an upstanding guy, even the guys in jail could tell that. I really wish you well and know you'll do good by your daughters. Just hang in there and I'll keep you in my prayers as well.

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    Good lord, since when is correcting your OWN child against the law ? That's the problem with this country so many stupid laws that do nothing but harm good people while criminals run buck wild. Hang in there Corry, I got a baby momma and this situation is tough, wouldn't wish on no one. I got 11 years and change til I have to never see the baby moma again, not that I'm counting ! And when it comes to mommy support, always have a lawyer ! Didn't have one first 3 years, took a beating. And when it was time to reup got a lawyer, for 1000$, and got my support lowered even tho Im making way more now. Saved me 150 a month, best 1000$ I've ever spent !
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gangel View Post
    Read what I've typed here four times... then count to 12, and re read it 4 times more. Pull what you typed off here. YOU WILL get in trouble with the in laws again. There are people who can build a murder case out of what you type on here. Quit driving by. Even if you are "legal". You have 6 more years of child rearing to do. Something will happen again. You can see by the attitude in you're typing that you still believe in "what's right". Yes ma'am and no ma'am only go so far. Nose down, fingers bleeding for the next couple of years will get you farther ahead than "standing up for what is right". As far as grabbing the kid, to "make a point", it never works. Your kid(s) are way smarter than you will ever know. My dad thought he could out think me. God, did I mess with him. More than one time he tried to follow me, and I ended up following him for blocks.
    im not sure what your saying, im not embarrassed about what happened or am I ashamed, ive walked the straight and narrow for the most of my life. I do know there is a bad man living with my kids. As far as driving by, its a road ive had to avoid lately, but before the incident its a road I traveled almost daily, its the road directly on the way to autozone dairy queen and burger king, its also a less traveled road for me to take if im taking a load of shred to the yard. sure I may have done it yesterday for a little bit of spite or maybe curiousity, but it is a public road, as far as getting into trouble again they have already cried wolf once, and I don't plan on giving them another chance, but of course I didn't know I did the first time either until it was done. I said up above I had to keep some stuff to myself. they dropped the family court for a reason and they knew it, but you do raise a point because this is the first time ive ever seen them give up so easy on the surface anyway

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    I know it never makes sense what I type, but I also know I'm not the only one who sees things differently. I still highly recomend pulling this whole topic. It will get used against you someday. Lawyers get paid 250 bucks an hour to scan the internet for your name. And it will show up. Years from now. When you least expect it.

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    happy and pnut, it is really silly why I quit going, REALLY SILLY, but you guys are right, i need to make a few personal changes

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gangel View Post
    I know it never makes sense what I type, but I also know I'm not the only one who sees things differently. I still highly recomend pulling this whole topic. It will get used against you someday. Lawyers get paid 250 bucks an hour to scan the internet for your name. And it will show up. Years from now. When you least expect it.
    mine cost a lot more that that i appreciate your concern i really do, ive not put anything on here that cannot be found in court records already tho, as far as searching for my name, photobucket ebay youtube, whatever is corycouch if a lawyer wants to look me up ill help them out

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